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Divorce Filings Found to Increase at the Beginning of the Year

January 22nd, 2015 at 10:33 am

divorce filings at New Years, Chicago divorce lawyerThe decision to end a marriage is rarely an easy one. The process can be complicated for many couples and the effects are usually far-reaching. While the difficulty of divorce is typically not a surprise, many couples choose to wait until the winter holiday season has ended to initiate the proceedings. Following a relatively quiet December, many court systems see a spike in divorce filings each January, beginning a new season for divorce which usually lasts through March.

“It doesn’t look very good to sue your spouse for divorce on Christmas Eve,” said James McLaren, South Carolina attorney and president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML). Although it may be evident that divorce is on the horizon, many couples give their children one last holiday season as an intact family before filing.

To some couples, the holidays may represent a last-chance effort at saving the marriage before deciding to file for divorce. Others approach the life change as a type of New Year’s resolution. In many cases, choosing to file early in the New Year will result in the proceedings being concluded by the end of the year. Not only will this allow couples to transition more quickly into the next stage of their lives, it also allows for some tax benefits.

Following a relatively booming January, divorce filings typically remain at a high rate for the next several months, usually peaking in March. Throughout the spring, many family law offices report a fairly consistent pace before tailing off again during the summer “vacation” months.

If you have been considering divorce and are ready to begin the process in 2015, you deserve qualified representation. Contact an experienced family law attorney in Chicago today. At Anderson & Associates, P.C., we can review your situation and provide you the help you need. Call 312-345-9999 to schedule a free consultation at our Chicago office or to make an appointment at one of our four other offices located in Northbrook, Wheaton, Schaumburg, or Orland Park.

When Parents put their Children in the Wrong Role

July 31st, 2013 at 10:32 am

Theresa  Chicago divorce attorneyYou will go through several different emotions before, during, and after the divorce process. These different emotional changes can lead to a displacement of feelings. According to Psychology Today, one very unhealthy but common trend is putting the child in the wrong social role.

The female parent may cast the eldest son in the role of being a surrogate husband. This relationship dynamic can eventually lead to a very unhealthy codependent relationship. This child may be looked as being the new “man of the house”. The male parent may likewise cast the eldest daughter in the surrogate wife role. These roles may be manifested by doing the things around the house that the now absent parent used to do.

The children in these situations often carry the unhealthy codependent traits on into their own adult relationships. The son may end up being controlling over his own wife while the daughter may become subservient to her husband, suppressing her own needs and feelings.

Here are just a few signs that you may be entering into this dynamic with your own children.

  • You spend more time in social situations with your children instead of people in your own age or social group.
  • You discuss your marriage, divorce, and subsequent relationships more with your children than people of the appropriate age.
  • You lean on your child emotionally instead of seeking counseling.
  • Your child cancels plans with their peers because they don’t want to leave you alone.

Going through a divorce is an emotionally taxing situation for anyone to go through. You need to have all of the appropriate allies as possible in your corner. One of those allies should be a knowledgeable and experienced divorce lawyer. Your Chicago divorce attorney will ensure that all of your legal needs are being met and that your best interest, as well as the best interests of your children, are considered.