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Divorce Linked to Doing Housework?

May 30th, 2013 at 8:35 pm

Divorce Linked to Doing Housework? IMAGEA recent Norwegian study finds that while not directly correlated, there is a relationship between divorce and sharing household duties, as reported in the Huffington Post. The study found that “the divorce rate among couples who share household chores was about 50 percent higher than for those in which the woman takes care of the housework,” according to the Huffington Post.

Yet it’s not so cut and dry: households in which men help out with the housework are apt to be more modern relationships, in which “women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.” It’s not necessarily a cause-and-effect relationship. And yet still, married couples who definitively see their role in the marriage, whether it be as breadwinner or house-parent or somewhere in between—couples that didn’t divvy up small duties in the day to day—had a lower divorce rate. “Clearly defined responsibilities between partners,” according to the Huffington Post, “prevented one spouse from stepping on the other’s toes.”

And yet “traditional” marriages don’t necessarily correspond with social conservativeness, at least according to the numbers. A couple years ago the U.S. Census Bureau reported that they were actually lower rates of divorce in the supposedly liberal Northeast than in the more socially conservative South and West. This could have as much to do with the age of first marriage as it does with mindsets—the median age for a first marriage was higher in the Northeast than in either the South or West. Generally if a person waits to marry, he’s less likely to get divorced.

If you or someone you know is considering divorce or interested in learning more about your options, don’t go through it alone. The most important first step is to contact an experienced Illinois family law attorney today.

 

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Divorcees End Up Dating Other Divorcees

May 12th, 2013 at 9:04 am

The high divorce rates in the U.S. make it pretty likely that if you’re divorced and dating, your date is probably divorced as well. According to the Chicago Tribune, “relationship experts don’t necessarily see problems with dating someone who has been divorced more than once, but it depends on the circumstances.” Casually dating someone who has had multiple marriages likely means that there’s no issue, psychologist Holly Parker told the Tribune, “but if you want to progress to a committed relationship, there’s more to think about, she says.” Parker notes that the if the person has been married three or four times, it’s important to question whether he or she has taken responsibility for his or her part in the marriage’s failure. Divorcees End Up Dating Other Divorcees IMAGE

Research does suggest, according to the Tribune, “that people who marry multiple times are more likely (than people who do not marry multiple times) to have personality traits and issues with emotional health that make it difficult to maintain satisfying, long-term relationships.” Even if you’re not looking for a long-term commitment, oftentimes a person who has been married several times might not be the most fun person to pass your time with, according to Parker.

According to a 2011 report issued by the U.S. Census Bureau, 55 percent of people 15 and older had been married once, and 15 percent had married more than once. That included 12 percent who had married twice, and 3 percent who had married three or four times. Only 1 percent of currently married couples “consisted of a husband and wife who had both been married three or more times.”

If you or someone you know is considering divorce, don’t go through it alone. A qualified divorce lawyer can help you in all stages of the complicated process. Contact a dedicated Chicago area family law attorney today.

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Divorce May Be Preferable to Marriage Counseling

May 2nd, 2013 at 4:00 pm

Divorce May Be Preferable to marriage counseling IMAGEMany couples turn to couples counseling in an effort to stave off divorce, according to the Chicago Tribune, but according to therapist Pat Love, couples counseling can be like “assembling an airplane in flight.” It’s not always easy, can be highly stressful, and has the potential to be explosive. Therapy isn’t always the answer to solving the problems in a strained marriage—sometimes counselors can “even do more harm than good,” according to the Tribune. When you consider the cost of therapy and the emotional rollercoaster that it can put a couple through, especially a couple already under the duress of an unhappy relationship, seeking the guidance of a qualified divorce attorney may be the better option.

This isn’t to say, of course, that couples therapy doesn’t work, and that there aren’t counseling professionals who do it well. It’s just that, according to the Tribune, many times the people who end up doing couples therapy are “social workers and psychologists” who haven’t necessarily “had much experience with it,” or haven’t necessarily “gone through the specialized course work required of licensed marriage and family therapists.” Love, an Austin-Texas based author of relationship books, said that marriage counselors are often trained to “treat the system, not the symptom.” This can lead to a further split in the relationship because one member of the couple may feel “betrayed, left out, reactive, and not want to come back to therapy.”

According to AllAboutCounseling.com, “marriage counseling fees and rates usually fall somewhere between $75 on the low side of the spectrum and $200 on the high side—and these fees are per hour.” This is a costly expense, especially if one reason for dissent in the marriage to begin with is money, as it often is. Unless you’re absolutely sure that there’s something to salvage in the relationship, therapy could be a waste of time and money, and divorce could be the better road to take.

If you or someone you know is considering marriage counseling or divorce, be sure to speak with a qualified divorce lawyer at the beginning of your deliberation. Don’t go through it alone. Contact an experienced Chicago-area family law attorney today.

 

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