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Meeting Your Spouse Online

August 30th, 2013 at 10:11 am

Meeting your spouse online could have a positive impact on your relationship over the long run, according to a recent research study. With an increased interest in online dating, it’s estimated that more than 30% of U.S. marriages begin with an email. Popular online dating site eHarmony conducted the recent study of U.S. couples, using a sample of 20,000 individuals who were married between the year 2003 and 2012.

LauraThe study tracked what happened to those couples post-marriage, finding that 8% of those couples who met in traditional ways ended up separated or divorced, while only 6% of online couples terminated their marriage.

The study revealed some other noteworthy factors about who is using online dating and succeeding with it. More than 40% of individuals making more than $100,000 were using online sites in an attempt to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right. Higher levels of income have long been related to happier marriages and fewer divorces over the long run.  Marriages that started with an online dating site also tended to be happier than other unions.

Of course, online dating is still relatively new, so long-term research about the success of marriages that begin with online communication is lacking. Some experts are critical, arguing that there’s simply not enough data in the field to make bold statements about online dating sites. Part of the story may be told by the fact that people might be willing to open up more online, or that online daters are more critical when choosing who to communicate with. In this way, it’s possible that online love-seekers are weeding out less ideal partners early on in the process, focusing their search on those partners who are marriage material.

Divorce can and does still happen, even in marriages springing from online relationships. If you’re considering divorce, talking your options over with an experienced divorce lawyer could help you understand the next steps and determine if you’re ready to move forward. Contact an attorney today.

Study Asks Whether ‘Cold Feet’ Indicates Future Divorce

May 7th, 2013 at 11:13 am

A study conducted at UCLA and published in the Journal of Medicine asked the question if cold feet before the wedding were an indicator of marital problems in the future. The researchers asked 232 recently married couples in their first marriages whether they had “ever been uncertain or hesitant about getting married” after they got engaged. They followed up with the couples every six months over the next four years to see if the couples’ doubts had validity. Their conclusion: having doubts before marriage is a good predictor of trouble ahead.

KerryIn about two-thirds of the couples who participated, one or both of the partners had doubts. According to the study, men had more doubts than women, with 47 percent of husbands having doubts, and 38 percent of the wives. The researchers found that having doubts before the wedding was a predictor of where the marriage would be four years later. Wives’ doubts were especially indicative of future divorce: 19 percent of couples in which wives had doubts were divorced four years later, but only 8 percent of couples in which wives did not have doubts ended up divorced. Husbands’ doubts did not significantly predict divorce, although divorce rates were somewhat higher among husbands with doubts (14 percent) than husbands without doubts (9 percent). For those couples with doubts who did not divorce, they reported have less satisfying marriages.

The team of psychologists who conducted this research recommends that couples pay attention to strong doubts. Don’t ignore them. While not necessarily a sign that the wedding should be called off, they suggest using those doubts to open the door to dialogue and communication with your partner, facing and resolving issues early on.

If you do find yourself in an unhappy marriage and are considering divorce, talk with an experienced Illinois family law attorney to find out what steps you should take before filing for divorce. Being prepared and well-represented will help ensure a favorable legal outcome.